“Believe only half of what you see and definitely nothing that you hear.
Before you take any lessons from any instructor, find out clearly from him what his method is and politely request that he demonstrate to you how some techniques operate. Use your common sense and if he convinces you, then, by all means, go ahead.
Even if a friend recommends a teacher, you should find out for yourself whether that teacher is the right fit for you.
Sometimes we come to teachers who have written books or have received accolades for their teachings and believe that due to this outside validation, they have credibility as teachers. It is important to have a vetting process. The teacher needs to be able to answer the questions:
• What is your teaching?
• How do you do it?
• Can you show me? (Depends on the type of teacher)
• How will I benefit from this teaching?
Then let the answers sink in and ask yourself: does this make sense to me?
Just because the teacher is not the teacher for you does not mean that they are a bad teacher, just that the fit was not right.
These points are good for both teachers and people in your life:
Is it clear? Is it direct and simple? How does it make you feel? Do the actions match the words? When I’m spending time with this person is the energetic exchange equal and generous?
Sometimes we have teachers where all the energy is being sucked towards them. With a good teacher you should be able to go to them and they will share with you and want you to understand what you want to understand.
“How does one judge if an instructor is good?” Rather this question should be rephrased to read: How can one judge if a method or system is good?
The soundness of the system and not the instructor is to be considered. The instructor is merely there to point the way and lead his disciples to an awareness of the true feeling and expression of the system.
You want the teacher to be a good guide, but what is also important is that the material resonates with you.
Sometimes we get caught up in the cult of personality and not in the substance of the teaching.
The best teachers are engaged with their subjects and in turn through their passion on the subject help their students become engaged and interested in the subject.
Do not, however, be impressed by instructors who have brick breaking hands, invincible stomachs, iron forearms, or even speed for that matter. Remember, you cannot learn his ability, but you can learn his skill.
Do not be dazzled by the performance of a teacher. The underlying teaching is what is important, not the trick itself.
A generous teacher will not use tricks, such as withholding information, just to get you into their class. A generous teacher is excited, enthusiastic, and supportive of you.
A teacher is never a giver of truth; he is a guide, a pointer to the truth that each student must find for himself.”.